Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Instead of quitting...

To quit or to get so angry at yourself for wanting to quit that you decide to work your ass off instead? That is the question.

Now that I have that cliche Hamlet reference out of the way, I quite literally asked myself that question in the middle of the night recently before finding myself on my laptop. Writing instead of sleeping. Taking notes instead of counting sheep. Reconsidering my entire path in life instead of relaxing and waiting for tomorrow.

I am bursting with ideas and potential that I rarely use. I am getting buried under apathy and a lack of self-confidence. And most of all, I am getting angry. I'm angry at the employers and potential employers who keep blowing me off. I'm angry at the friends, family members and peers who expect the world of me only to be let down time after time after time. I'm angry at the stereotypes and expectations surrounding writers---how if you haven't written a best-selling book or don't have a blog that gets millions of page views, you ain't shit. But underneath it all, I realize that I'm angry at myself. I'm angry at myself for not giving my talent room to breathe, for settling for less than what I'm worth, and for wanting to quit 5 million times per week. And I never do because I never can. 

So instead of quitting, I'm turning my entire life into one big writing assignment. Every situation I go through and every emotion I feel is going to be turned into an article or story. To hell with not having a specific person or publication to send it to. I'm going to re-read "Bird by Bird" by Anne Lamott. I'm going to get up in the middle of the night when I have a new idea, even when I'm tired or have to get up early the next morning. I'm going to say no whenever I want to say no and yes whenever I want to say yes. I'm going to stop selling my soul for pennies and dollar bills. I'm not going to be afraid of doing a shitty job the first time, and I'm going to realize that "perfect" doesn't exist. I'm going to let my passion and enthusiasm be greater than my level of experience or expertise.

I will always have days where all I want to do is stay on the couch all day. I'm certainly not immune to discouragement, which is a big fat "DUH" if you read this blog regularly. But the fact that I've felt like quitting so many times has ignited a fear in me that one day I really will---and then be subjected to a lifetime of unhappiness and failure because of it. I'm going to get so mad at myself for even wanting to quit that I fight back with every ounce of motivation I still have standing.

And I promise you I will get somewhere.  

<3 Madison


  1. I'm terrible for wanting to quit whenever things get even a little difficult... I'm an insane perfectionist with crazy high expectations for myself and living under that much demand and pressure really frays my nerves. Which is ironic because I just do it to myself. "I'm not going to be afraid of doing a shitty job the first time, and I'm going to realize that "perfect" doesn't exist." Now THAT is admirable, and something I'm striving to learn to do!

  2. I am right there with you right now. Last semester of college, dealing with medical issues, can't find a job and I just want to strangle something. I enjoyed reading this because this is the more optimistic version of how I ought to be thinking right now, now if only I could get over my own perfectionist tendencies and right a blog and actually publish the book I've been working on forever ;.;
    Btw, first time commenting on your blog (I think) so just wanted to say: love it.

    1. Thank you for reading! I struggle a lot with thinking optimistically sometimes, but every now and then, a more positive perspective hits. :-) Don't give up!

  3. So powerful! A very good job! Madison! You're very talented!