Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Why all choices are ultimately the right choices

In case you guys don't know, I have an inner wise woman living inside of me. She frequently gives me blog ideas.

The other day, she said, "I guess there really is no such thing as a wrong choice."

I very often obsess over whether or not I'm doing the right things and making the right choices and going down the right paths. It takes me twelve hundred billion years to make decisions---especially big ones. I have a tendency to doubt and second-guess myself a lot. Sometimes I can be so sure about something and then wake up one morning with a sinking feeling that I have no clue about it at all. It's frustrating. It's confusing. It's heartbreaking. And it sucks.

It makes me wonder sometimes...How can we ever truly know if what we're doing/deciding/saying/planning is the right thing?

We can't. 

I know that can seem like the worst thing ever sometimes, but if you look at it from a different angle, it can be the best thing ever.

In the end, there are no wrong choices. Sure, we make mistakes and have regrets. But every single choice ultimately takes us exactly where we need to go. Some of those choices may lead to bumps in the road, but that's all they are. Bumps. They can't stop you or destroy you. They can only help you grow and encourage you to keep going even after you hit them.

Every little thing that happens to you and every little choice you make is shaping you into who you are and who you will become.

If you don't believe me, just think about a time in your life where you felt horrible as a result of a perceived wrong choice. Maybe you dated "the wrong person" and they broke your heart. Maybe you made a series of "wrong choices" that led to a downward spiral. Maybe you uprooted your whole life for something that didn't work out. Maybe you just simply did something you wish you could take back.

Within all of these circumstances, there was a lesson, wasn't there? There was a lesson, and there was growth. You may not have realized it at the time, but those things later shaped you into who you are today.

Where would we be without mistakes? A life without mistakes would be awfully boring, and I assure you that this blog wouldn't exist and my whole life as I currently know it wouldn't exist if I did everything "right."

There are no wrong choices. Every choice leads to experience, learning and growth. So do whatever you want and try not to worry about the outcome.

I will if you will.

<3 Madison