Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Committing to and trusting your decisions

I've mentioned it once before, and I will mention it again. I am a terrible decision maker. It usually takes me a really long time to make a decision about anything, whether it’s something big or something small.

I also change my mind and doubt myself a lot. I’m not always in tune with what I really want or need, and sometimes this leaves me feeling completely lost and directionless.

But lately, I've been realizing that there's something to be said about just making a damn choice and sticking to it, even if you don’t know what the outcome of that choice will be. I think that’s the main reason why a lot of people, myself included, struggle with making up their minds. It’s because of uncertainty and being afraid of the outcome.

Here are some of the things I've recently come to realize about decision making:

1. Not making a choice at all is still a choice---a bad one.

2. No one ever has any way of knowing how something is going to turn out. That can either be paralyzing or beautiful. Let it be beautiful.

3. We’re faced with decisions for a reason. We come up with ideas for a reason. We are presented with opportunities for a reason. We have gut feelings and intuitive instincts for a reason. Sometimes simply trusting yourself and trusting your decisions is the single best thing you can do.

4. Fear, doubt and uncertainty have a way of trying to convince you that you’re making the wrong choice. But deep down, you know if something feels right or not. Deep down, you already know what you need to do. Trust that and commit to that. 

I've been faced with some meaty decisions lately and plan on making a few different changes in my life. It has been extremely powerful to just quiet the voice of fear and insecurity and allow myself to be lead down these new paths. 

It's not an easy thing to do at all, and I know that I will continue to struggle with it at times. But it's exhausting to constantly look over my shoulder and second-guess myself. Sometimes you just have to trust that the universe has greater plans. And it's okay to have no idea what those plans are.

<3 Madison    


  1. I made a huge decision this week. I'm moving over 800 miles to Austin, TX. It's scary, but my best friend is moving there too so at least I will know someone.

    1. Wow, I bet this was a timely post for you! :-)

      Good luck in Austin. It's good that your best friend will be there too. Making a big change feels less scary when you're not in it alone.