I used to justify my tendency to easily give up on things by saying stuff like, "I just change my mind a lot." And that was true. I did change my mind a lot, and I still do. But there are some things I gave up on that I wish I hadn't.
I try my best to avoid regret, and I generally don't spend too much time looking over my shoulder and wishing I had done things differently 3, 5, 7 years ago. But today, I just wanted to explore the difference between giving up on a dream/goal and changing your mind about a dream/goal.
Like I stated earlier, I change my mind a lot. But over the past couple of years, there are certain things that I have surprisingly not changed my mind about. These days, when something really matters to me, I fight for it with everything I am.
If you change your mind about something that really matters to you, that's giving up.
If you change your mind about something that no longer feels quite right and doesn't make your soul sing anymore, that's changing your mind. And I just wanted to let you know that it's okay to change your mind.
Sometimes I make goals and then rinse them down the metaphorical drain within weeks. I always seem to feel bad about that---Like I owed those goals my willingness to follow through no matter what.
But things change, and that's okay. People change. Minds change. Hearts change. Paths change.
You might think you want something, and you might even put a lot into it. But if you wake up one morning with a tug in your heart that's trying to guide you in a different direction, or if you wake up one morning with a vague sense that you don't really want what you thought you wanted after all, it's okay to wipe your slate clean or go in another direction. When it comes to instincts, whether small or large, I say follow them.
Ultimately, your instincts, wants and needs deserve your attention way more than a goal you wrote down two years ago and swore you'd achieve.
One thing I know for sure about life is that it's far from a straight line. We will constantly be taking steps and bounds in every different direction. Two steps forward, nine steps back, three steps sideways, etc.
Don't give up on the things that bring light to your soul. And don't be afraid to let go of the things that no longer do.
<3 Madison
p.s. I launched a new blog last week! Please check it out and spread the word if you like what you see. http://more-to-share-more-to-learn.blogspot.com/
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Wednesday, May 8, 2013
Committing to and trusting your decisions
I've mentioned it once before, and I will mention it again. I am a terrible decision maker. It usually takes me a really long time to make
a decision about anything, whether it’s something big or something small.
I also change my mind and doubt myself a lot. I’m not always
in tune with what I really want or need, and sometimes this leaves me feeling
completely lost and directionless.
But lately, I've been realizing that there's something to be
said about just making a damn choice and sticking to it, even if you don’t know
what the outcome of that choice will be. I think that’s the main reason why a lot of people,
myself included, struggle with making up their minds. It’s because of
uncertainty and being afraid of the outcome.
Here are some of the things I've recently come to realize
about decision making:
1. Not making a choice at all is still a choice---a bad one.
2. No one ever has any way of knowing how something is going
to turn out. That can either be paralyzing or beautiful. Let it be beautiful.
3. We’re faced with decisions for a reason. We come up with
ideas for a reason. We are presented with opportunities for a reason. We have
gut feelings and intuitive instincts for a reason. Sometimes simply trusting
yourself and trusting your decisions is the single best thing you can do.
4. Fear, doubt and uncertainty have a way of trying to
convince you that you’re making the wrong choice. But deep down, you know if
something feels right or not. Deep down, you already know what you need to do.
Trust that and commit to that.
I've been faced with some meaty decisions lately and plan on making a few different changes in my life. It has been extremely powerful to just quiet the voice of fear and insecurity and allow myself to be lead down these new paths.
It's not an easy thing to do at all, and I know that I will continue to struggle with it at times. But it's exhausting to constantly look over my shoulder and second-guess myself. Sometimes you just have to trust that the universe has greater plans. And it's okay to have no idea what those plans are.
<3 Madison
Wednesday, May 1, 2013
10 ways to alleviate mild to moderate angst
Anyone who truly knows me can attest to the fact that I'm a bit emotionally charged at times. I have a tendency to fly off the handle or claim that my whole life is over when something I don't like happens. I've been getting sort of better about this lately, but it's still a fairly regular thing.
Sometimes I get so worked up that I almost swear I'm going to drown myself in the bathtub or run away from everything I've ever known and be homeless forever. And then ten to fifteen minutes later (or longer, depending on the situation), I'm totally fine again.
The discomfort involved in these little episodes is profound. During the bad ones, I pretty much resort to hating myself and everything about my life in general. And even though that feeling is always temporary, in the heat of the moment, I'm usually a complete mess.
If you're the same way or if you're prone to having mini meltdowns of your own, here are ten ways to alleviate the angst:
1. Get some fresh air. Get out of your house, apartment, hotel room, wherever, and get some fresh air. Go for a walk. Pace your yard a few times. Go for a drive and roll all the windows down (if you want). Whenever I sit around and stew in my own negative feelings, they multiply. It helps to get active or just go off by myself for a little while.
2. Cry. I'm talking about the kind of crying that would embarrass you if others were around (Side note: Make sure others aren't around.) You may feel pathetic and ridiculous, but you will feel so much better when you're done. Seriously. It's like a full soul cleanse.
3. Create something. Write. Draw. Build a Lego house. Put your intense energy into something useful.
4. Destroy something. Destroying something can feel just as therapeutic as creating something. I admittedly don't really like to destroy things too much because I tend to feel sympathy for inanimate objects. I will only destroy something if I know for a fact that it's okay or that it must be destroyed. Try destroying an old piece of junk or hacking away at something that needs to come down and/or apart.
5. Read some inspiring or uplifting content. I bookmark inspiring blog posts on a pretty regular basis. I like to read back over things when I'm feeling particularly dejected. Here are a few examples: Don't Ever Give Up, Transcendence, How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship When You're Depressed
6. Surround yourself with nice people. I love nice people more than I can ever explain. There's nothing like being showered with love and kindness when a dark cloud is looming over your head. Try to stay away from negative, critical and belligerent people when you're having a bad day. They will always make you feel worse.
7. Listen to music that matches your mood. I have a variety of different songs on my iPod---happy songs, angry songs, sad songs, inspiring songs, etc. When I'm in a bad mood, I like to listen to the angry, sad or inspiring ones. They make me feel less alone with my feelings, and I think that's ultimately what we all want when we're feeling something unpleasant.
8. Reach out to someone. I've been getting better about reaching out for support. I used to avoid doing that at all costs out of fear that I would seem weak or self-indulgent. There is absolutely nothing weak or self-indulgent about admitting how you feel and reaching out to someone who can help you. Everyone needs a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on every now and then.
9. Be proactive. As I mentioned earlier, when something I don't like happens, I tend to bathe in my own misfortune or claim that my whole life is ruined. My whole life is not ruined There is always a way out. There is always another option. There is always something I can do to make progress towards fixing my current situation. I've been trying to be more proactive about things.
10. Let go. This is one of my mantras. It's very simple, yet very powerful. Bad moods and mini meltdowns are sometimes triggered as a result of holding onto something that can easily be thrown to the wind. Take a deep breath. Forgive people. Practice mindfulness and acceptance. Figure out how to access feelings of happiness and contentment (which is totally possible, by the way). Be good to yourself and others. Let life happen.
<3 Madison
Sometimes I get so worked up that I almost swear I'm going to drown myself in the bathtub or run away from everything I've ever known and be homeless forever. And then ten to fifteen minutes later (or longer, depending on the situation), I'm totally fine again.
The discomfort involved in these little episodes is profound. During the bad ones, I pretty much resort to hating myself and everything about my life in general. And even though that feeling is always temporary, in the heat of the moment, I'm usually a complete mess.
If you're the same way or if you're prone to having mini meltdowns of your own, here are ten ways to alleviate the angst:
1. Get some fresh air. Get out of your house, apartment, hotel room, wherever, and get some fresh air. Go for a walk. Pace your yard a few times. Go for a drive and roll all the windows down (if you want). Whenever I sit around and stew in my own negative feelings, they multiply. It helps to get active or just go off by myself for a little while.
2. Cry. I'm talking about the kind of crying that would embarrass you if others were around (Side note: Make sure others aren't around.) You may feel pathetic and ridiculous, but you will feel so much better when you're done. Seriously. It's like a full soul cleanse.
3. Create something. Write. Draw. Build a Lego house. Put your intense energy into something useful.
4. Destroy something. Destroying something can feel just as therapeutic as creating something. I admittedly don't really like to destroy things too much because I tend to feel sympathy for inanimate objects. I will only destroy something if I know for a fact that it's okay or that it must be destroyed. Try destroying an old piece of junk or hacking away at something that needs to come down and/or apart.
5. Read some inspiring or uplifting content. I bookmark inspiring blog posts on a pretty regular basis. I like to read back over things when I'm feeling particularly dejected. Here are a few examples: Don't Ever Give Up, Transcendence, How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship When You're Depressed
6. Surround yourself with nice people. I love nice people more than I can ever explain. There's nothing like being showered with love and kindness when a dark cloud is looming over your head. Try to stay away from negative, critical and belligerent people when you're having a bad day. They will always make you feel worse.
7. Listen to music that matches your mood. I have a variety of different songs on my iPod---happy songs, angry songs, sad songs, inspiring songs, etc. When I'm in a bad mood, I like to listen to the angry, sad or inspiring ones. They make me feel less alone with my feelings, and I think that's ultimately what we all want when we're feeling something unpleasant.
8. Reach out to someone. I've been getting better about reaching out for support. I used to avoid doing that at all costs out of fear that I would seem weak or self-indulgent. There is absolutely nothing weak or self-indulgent about admitting how you feel and reaching out to someone who can help you. Everyone needs a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on every now and then.
9. Be proactive. As I mentioned earlier, when something I don't like happens, I tend to bathe in my own misfortune or claim that my whole life is ruined. My whole life is not ruined There is always a way out. There is always another option. There is always something I can do to make progress towards fixing my current situation. I've been trying to be more proactive about things.
10. Let go. This is one of my mantras. It's very simple, yet very powerful. Bad moods and mini meltdowns are sometimes triggered as a result of holding onto something that can easily be thrown to the wind. Take a deep breath. Forgive people. Practice mindfulness and acceptance. Figure out how to access feelings of happiness and contentment (which is totally possible, by the way). Be good to yourself and others. Let life happen.
<3 Madison
Friday, April 26, 2013
Work hard (on your passions)
Popular society uses the phrase "work hard" a lot.
"If you want to make something of yourself, you have to work hard."
"Truly successful people work harder than everybody else."
I agree that hard work leads to great results, but I think there's one little important detail that's being left out of all these "work hard" rants.
The truth is, I'm an interesting cross between a hard worker and a lackadaisical couch potato. I've always been resistant when it comes to doing things I don't want to do. In school, I'd half-ass my way through my math homework because I didn't like math. I failed my physical science chapter tests because going swimming in Antarctica with nothing but a bikini on sounded more fun than reading physical science chapters. I procrastinated. I Googled answers. I read SparkNotes. I felt like throwing my belongings across the room when I saw the word "explain" on my test papers because simply giving the right answer wasn't good enough.
Don't get me wrong. I actually made pretty decent grades in school. Mostly A's and B's with a C every now and then in subjects I hated. (And okay, I passed Algebra with a D in 9th grade.) I always studied and got my work done (for the most part) because getting good grades mattered to me.
Which brings me to the central point of this post....
I've noticed that I only work hard on the things that truly matter to me.
When it comes to doing things I'm passionate about and working towards goals I want to achieve more than anything, I basically turn into a crazed work-a-holic who deprives herself of food, sleep and bathroom breaks until she gets a satisfying amount of work done within a certain time period. When I'm working on something I'm passionate about, it would take a pretty massive emergency to pull me away.
This has always sort of set me apart from others. I always wanted to be creative and do whatever the hell I pleased, and my family and peers could not fathom why I so adamantly neglected things like going to college and getting a real job. It's because I never wanted to go to college. I never wanted a real job. I acted like I did because I thought I was supposed to and would tell people, "Oh, I plan on going to college and getting a job very soon!" But deep down, I knew that probably wasn't going to happen. I didn't care enough about those things to put in the effort required to achieve them.
So while all my friends were accomplishing these grown-up activities at lightning speed, I sat at home wishing I could work on my seemingly insignificant passions and still feel as important and accomplished as them. I felt lazy, irresponsible and unworthy in comparison and thought there was something terribly wrong with me for being so resistant to all that "hard work." I felt like such an asshole when my friends would text me about how busy and bogged down there were with things like work, school, and other young adult responsibilities.
I grew up slowly, gradually, and at my own pace. But the fact that I only work hard on things I care about hasn't changed. I have my dream job. I'm working on my first eBook, and I couldn't be more excited about it or proud of it. I love how I'm constantly dreaming up new ideas and possibilities for my work life. Uncertainty feels more exciting than scary these days.
Case in point, I think I'm doing pretty well despite my extreme lethargic nature. I'm not rolling in cash or showering in notoriety, and I still have a lot of learning and growing up left to do. But I'm happy. I'm happy because I only do what I love every day. I work hard on that because it's the only thing that makes sense to me.
So yeah, work hard...but only on what you're passionate about. A lot of people say things like, "Sometimes you just have to suck it up and work hard even if you don't like what you're doing." While I agree that sometimes we have to go through the messy stuff to get to the good stuff, I don't think anyone should feel obligated to settle for or simply tolerate something that they don't truly care about. I know I don't.
What are YOU passionate about, and how have you nurtured that passion today?
<3 Madison
"If you want to make something of yourself, you have to work hard."
"Truly successful people work harder than everybody else."
I agree that hard work leads to great results, but I think there's one little important detail that's being left out of all these "work hard" rants.
The truth is, I'm an interesting cross between a hard worker and a lackadaisical couch potato. I've always been resistant when it comes to doing things I don't want to do. In school, I'd half-ass my way through my math homework because I didn't like math. I failed my physical science chapter tests because going swimming in Antarctica with nothing but a bikini on sounded more fun than reading physical science chapters. I procrastinated. I Googled answers. I read SparkNotes. I felt like throwing my belongings across the room when I saw the word "explain" on my test papers because simply giving the right answer wasn't good enough.
Don't get me wrong. I actually made pretty decent grades in school. Mostly A's and B's with a C every now and then in subjects I hated. (And okay, I passed Algebra with a D in 9th grade.) I always studied and got my work done (for the most part) because getting good grades mattered to me.
Which brings me to the central point of this post....
I've noticed that I only work hard on the things that truly matter to me.
When it comes to doing things I'm passionate about and working towards goals I want to achieve more than anything, I basically turn into a crazed work-a-holic who deprives herself of food, sleep and bathroom breaks until she gets a satisfying amount of work done within a certain time period. When I'm working on something I'm passionate about, it would take a pretty massive emergency to pull me away.
This has always sort of set me apart from others. I always wanted to be creative and do whatever the hell I pleased, and my family and peers could not fathom why I so adamantly neglected things like going to college and getting a real job. It's because I never wanted to go to college. I never wanted a real job. I acted like I did because I thought I was supposed to and would tell people, "Oh, I plan on going to college and getting a job very soon!" But deep down, I knew that probably wasn't going to happen. I didn't care enough about those things to put in the effort required to achieve them.
So while all my friends were accomplishing these grown-up activities at lightning speed, I sat at home wishing I could work on my seemingly insignificant passions and still feel as important and accomplished as them. I felt lazy, irresponsible and unworthy in comparison and thought there was something terribly wrong with me for being so resistant to all that "hard work." I felt like such an asshole when my friends would text me about how busy and bogged down there were with things like work, school, and other young adult responsibilities.
I grew up slowly, gradually, and at my own pace. But the fact that I only work hard on things I care about hasn't changed. I have my dream job. I'm working on my first eBook, and I couldn't be more excited about it or proud of it. I love how I'm constantly dreaming up new ideas and possibilities for my work life. Uncertainty feels more exciting than scary these days.
Case in point, I think I'm doing pretty well despite my extreme lethargic nature. I'm not rolling in cash or showering in notoriety, and I still have a lot of learning and growing up left to do. But I'm happy. I'm happy because I only do what I love every day. I work hard on that because it's the only thing that makes sense to me.
So yeah, work hard...but only on what you're passionate about. A lot of people say things like, "Sometimes you just have to suck it up and work hard even if you don't like what you're doing." While I agree that sometimes we have to go through the messy stuff to get to the good stuff, I don't think anyone should feel obligated to settle for or simply tolerate something that they don't truly care about. I know I don't.
What are YOU passionate about, and how have you nurtured that passion today?
<3 Madison
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
My "anti self-abuse" policy
Yesterday I sort of planned on going for a walk and picking up trash and litter in my area---in honor of Earth Day and because littering is my number one environmental pet peeve. (Why are people still doing that???) I've had some extra free time on my hands lately, so I thought contributing to the beauty and cleanliness of my community would be a good way to put that free time to good use. I could pop in my earplugs, grab a trash bag (and maybe some rubber gloves) and get to work. It would be great!
But instead of doing that during my free time, I found myself alternating between frolicking to music, fussing with my hair, and catching up on the book I'm currently reading. Then I remembered, "Oh yeah! Didn't I plan on picking up litter instead of engaging in such activities?" I could feel the inner voice of negativity and disapproval coming on, but to my amazement, I managed to stuff it down and ignore it before it could tell me how irresponsible and environmentally negligent I was. I was immediately able to replace that with something more like, "I'm actually enjoying my music frolicking, hair fussing, book reading free time. The litter will still be there if I decide to pick it up some other day." And just like that, I went back to what I was doing---guilt free.
I've noticed myself doing this quite a lot these days. I keep coming up against this blunt refusal to beat myself up or attack myself with "shoulds." It's like I've subconsciously developed an "anti self-abuse" policy.
I'm not saying I don't beat myself up at all. I do. But I've been doing it way less these days. I've adopted an extremely nonchalant, somewhat uncaring mentality. While this is very liberating and has helped me love myself more, I can't help but wonder if it's a little bit of a bad thing too.
I'm a huge advocate of treating yourself with patience and kindness, but I'm also a huge advocate of remaining self-aware. I think it's good to be able to stop every now and then and think, "I could be better at this" or "I could change this." Recognizing how we can be better or how we can change is what leads to growth. If everyone just kept doing what they've always done and never made an effort to recognize the areas of their life that could be better or different, we'd all become pretty boring and stagnant after awhile. There would be no more stories to tell. There would be no more lessons to teach.
I don't want my extremely nonchalant and somewhat uncaring mentality to prevent me from recognizing the areas of my life that could use work. I'm not exactly talking about my failure to pick up litter when I told myself I would. I'm just talking about the self-punishing thoughts I deflect in general. There are some that I probably shouldn't be deflecting so much.
Maybe there's a healthy way to stay self-aware without punishing myself over anything. I guess I just need to find some sort of balance.
What do you guys think? Is my new "anti self-abuse" policy a good thing?
<3 Madison
But instead of doing that during my free time, I found myself alternating between frolicking to music, fussing with my hair, and catching up on the book I'm currently reading. Then I remembered, "Oh yeah! Didn't I plan on picking up litter instead of engaging in such activities?" I could feel the inner voice of negativity and disapproval coming on, but to my amazement, I managed to stuff it down and ignore it before it could tell me how irresponsible and environmentally negligent I was. I was immediately able to replace that with something more like, "I'm actually enjoying my music frolicking, hair fussing, book reading free time. The litter will still be there if I decide to pick it up some other day." And just like that, I went back to what I was doing---guilt free.
I've noticed myself doing this quite a lot these days. I keep coming up against this blunt refusal to beat myself up or attack myself with "shoulds." It's like I've subconsciously developed an "anti self-abuse" policy.
I'm not saying I don't beat myself up at all. I do. But I've been doing it way less these days. I've adopted an extremely nonchalant, somewhat uncaring mentality. While this is very liberating and has helped me love myself more, I can't help but wonder if it's a little bit of a bad thing too.
I'm a huge advocate of treating yourself with patience and kindness, but I'm also a huge advocate of remaining self-aware. I think it's good to be able to stop every now and then and think, "I could be better at this" or "I could change this." Recognizing how we can be better or how we can change is what leads to growth. If everyone just kept doing what they've always done and never made an effort to recognize the areas of their life that could be better or different, we'd all become pretty boring and stagnant after awhile. There would be no more stories to tell. There would be no more lessons to teach.
I don't want my extremely nonchalant and somewhat uncaring mentality to prevent me from recognizing the areas of my life that could use work. I'm not exactly talking about my failure to pick up litter when I told myself I would. I'm just talking about the self-punishing thoughts I deflect in general. There are some that I probably shouldn't be deflecting so much.
Maybe there's a healthy way to stay self-aware without punishing myself over anything. I guess I just need to find some sort of balance.
What do you guys think? Is my new "anti self-abuse" policy a good thing?
<3 Madison
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Miscellaneous thoughts (Part 4)
~ Don't give anyone the authority to dump their negative energy on top of your happiness. Whenever someone is horrible, mean, rude, critical or belligerent, you need to remember that THEY have a problem, not you. It has nothing to do with you. So continue to be happy, and just let them sit in their miserable little corner if they want to.
~ If you're unsure about whether or not you should reach out for help or support, reach out for help or support. It's okay to completely crumble at someone's feet and admit that you're hurting.
~ It's never too late to right a wrong or chase a dream.
~ Internet friends still count as friends.
~ If you've been struggling with self-love lately, stop what you're doing and read the following two articles. They're kind of fantastic...
When to love yourself
How to Love Your Authentic Self
~ I'm admittedly having a terrible day, yet I've managed to successfully remind myself that it doesn't mean I have a terrible life. That's rare, and I deserve a nap for it.
~ Kindness is one of the most charitable gifts you can offer. Be kind to someone today.
<3 Madison
~ If you're unsure about whether or not you should reach out for help or support, reach out for help or support. It's okay to completely crumble at someone's feet and admit that you're hurting.
~ It's never too late to right a wrong or chase a dream.
~ Internet friends still count as friends.
~ If you've been struggling with self-love lately, stop what you're doing and read the following two articles. They're kind of fantastic...
When to love yourself
How to Love Your Authentic Self
~ I'm admittedly having a terrible day, yet I've managed to successfully remind myself that it doesn't mean I have a terrible life. That's rare, and I deserve a nap for it.
~ Kindness is one of the most charitable gifts you can offer. Be kind to someone today.
<3 Madison
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Thoughts on doing something right
Hi friends.
I'm sorry I've been a bit MIA lately. I'm not a super professional with a master plan to blog daily or once a week or twice a week or what have you. I just sort of blog whenever I feel inspired and hope that I get inspired frequently and that you guys don't hate me or lose interest in my absence.
I just wanted to share a couple of thoughts with you today.
My eyes popped open at 6:30 this morning, and adrenaline pumped through every fiber of my being. As I lied there feeling more than ready to start my day, counting my blessings, formulating new ideas, and contemplating exciting new possibilities for my life, my eyes suddenly filled with tears of joy, fear, excitement and bewilderment all at the same time. And all I could think in that moment was, "I have got to be doing something right."
I love those moments. Those moments where you feel stars aligning in your soul. Those moments when your intuitive voice is nearly shouting in your ear to keep going---to keep doing what you're doing. Those moments when you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you're exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what you need to do, with exactly what you need to have, despite the uncertainty that still lies ahead.
And even if you haven't had one of those moments recently, I want to let you know that you're still exactly where you need to be. And the pain, grief, fear or confusion that you may be feeling right now is only leading you to one of those moments later on. And you will look back on that pain, grief, fear and confusion and understand why it was there.
I also wanted to remind you not to be so hard on yourself when you do something that you or someone else perceives as wrong.
You may make goals and not follow through with them. That's okay. Maybe it means your heart is making room for new goals.
You may fail to treat other people the way you want to be treated. That's okay. Maybe it means you're an imperfect human being just like them.
You may get your priorities thrown out of whack. That's okay. Maybe it means you have an opportunity to put them back in whack.
You may have days where all you want to do is sit on the couch in your pajamas and eat junk food. That's okay. Maybe it means you need to slow down and recharge.
So as a concluding thought, I guess I just wanted to remind you that everything is going to be okay. And even when you feel like you're doing everything wrong, one day you will realize that you've actually done everything right.
<3 Madison
I'm sorry I've been a bit MIA lately. I'm not a super professional with a master plan to blog daily or once a week or twice a week or what have you. I just sort of blog whenever I feel inspired and hope that I get inspired frequently and that you guys don't hate me or lose interest in my absence.
I just wanted to share a couple of thoughts with you today.
My eyes popped open at 6:30 this morning, and adrenaline pumped through every fiber of my being. As I lied there feeling more than ready to start my day, counting my blessings, formulating new ideas, and contemplating exciting new possibilities for my life, my eyes suddenly filled with tears of joy, fear, excitement and bewilderment all at the same time. And all I could think in that moment was, "I have got to be doing something right."
I love those moments. Those moments where you feel stars aligning in your soul. Those moments when your intuitive voice is nearly shouting in your ear to keep going---to keep doing what you're doing. Those moments when you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you're exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what you need to do, with exactly what you need to have, despite the uncertainty that still lies ahead.
And even if you haven't had one of those moments recently, I want to let you know that you're still exactly where you need to be. And the pain, grief, fear or confusion that you may be feeling right now is only leading you to one of those moments later on. And you will look back on that pain, grief, fear and confusion and understand why it was there.
I also wanted to remind you not to be so hard on yourself when you do something that you or someone else perceives as wrong.
You may make goals and not follow through with them. That's okay. Maybe it means your heart is making room for new goals.
You may fail to treat other people the way you want to be treated. That's okay. Maybe it means you're an imperfect human being just like them.
You may get your priorities thrown out of whack. That's okay. Maybe it means you have an opportunity to put them back in whack.
You may have days where all you want to do is sit on the couch in your pajamas and eat junk food. That's okay. Maybe it means you need to slow down and recharge.
So as a concluding thought, I guess I just wanted to remind you that everything is going to be okay. And even when you feel like you're doing everything wrong, one day you will realize that you've actually done everything right.
<3 Madison
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