This is just a thought that came to me randomly today and it's one of those things that I can only explain through examples. So take a look:
Instead of telling a person how horrible their new haircut is, why not compliment them on their rad new shoes?
Instead of arguing with your child because they didn't have time to do a certain chore, why not reward them for doing the chores they DID get around to?
Instead of bashing someone for choosing not to go to college, why not commend them for at least graduating high school?
Instead of gossiping about a young girl getting pregnant, why not notice how great of a mother she is?
Instead of telling someone they suck at basketball, why not tell them how great they are at soccer?
I could go on, but this will do.
So I hope you get my point. It seems like most people only feel entitled to point out people's flaws or weaknesses. Or just certain choices that someone else made that they don't agree with.
It's so much easier to build someone up than it is to tear someone down. Why not tell someone how much they mean to you or how proud you are of them instead? I will if you will.